Today, Sunday 27th of October 2013, is our 6th year wedding anniversary.
I remember the day well……We had a very small wedding planned in an outdoor garden setting, very brave for October’s notoriously unpredictable weather. We watched nervously as every weekend from the beginning of the month turn into a rain fest. I remember waking up that Saturday morning, nervously opening one eye expecting to see the grey skies and the sound of rain. Luck was totally on our side; it turned into a beautiful, glorious day so much so that some of our guests ended up with sunburn!
The last 6 years have been a great adventure, we have been fortunate enough to have been able to travel, we bought a home and have two much loved four legged children. We have had our share of ups and downs, just like everyone else, but we have always been able to keep perspective and our sense of humour.
For me, the last two months has been a continuous test of our relationship and our marriage; an all consuming emotional rollercoaster, of tests, scans, doctor appointments, hospitals and treatments.
I have questioned so many things including some previously steadfast belief systems. Some have been cemented even more firmly and others have been totally washed away. What I don’t question is what marriage and relationships really are all about and what they are for. What actually is left in the end when all the pretty superficial veneer has been removed.
That person that stood there holding your hand at the altar, making those promises to love and stay with you no matter what. This is the time when those words are tested.
Marriage doesn’t start with the planning of that one day where things are pretty, when you feel like the proverbial princess, when you’re easy to love. It starts when that fairy tale ending is peeled away and you become something unrecognisable. When you look into the mirror and find a very different reality and very little to love.
Then it doesn’t matter how little or how much you spent on your wedding, how much you paid for your dress or your cake, which guests arrived and who didn’t. All that matters is who is there holding your hand when the test results come back and they’re not so good. Who is helping you shower, eat, dress and face another day. Who can look beyond the shell and the scars and find something worth loving, even when it has to be for both of you. That is truly when you need your prince, your knight in shining armour. That’s when the fairy tale is made real…
To Pete, my hero and a REAL knight in shining armour, Happy Anniversary…we still have many chapters left in our love story.
I received a beautiful bouquet of anniversary flowers with this message:
“Truly, Madly, Deeply since 2007…Forever is a long time, but I wouldn’t mind spending it by your side.Thank you for completing me, Happy Anniversary.Love you Pete”
Who could not love this man!
“Marriage is a Mosaic you build with your spouse.Millions of tiny moments that create your love story.Jennifer Smith
“The best time to love with your whole Heart is always now, in this moment, because no breath beyond the current is promised”.Fawn Weaver
“Happily ever after is not a Fairy Tale.It’s a choice”.Fawn Weaver
“Show me a man who is smiling from ear-to-ear and living a beautiful life, and I’ll show you a man who is grateful for what he has and utterly in love with his wife”.Fawn Weaver