When I started chemo, one of the things I was told by the sister at the cancer centre and by the oncologist, was that my hair would start falling out around day 7 or 10 post first chemo treatment and it would be all gone by the time I arrived for the second one, 21 days later.  I was told it would DEFINITELY happen due to the chemo drugs I was having. A bit harsh to hear I know, but I think it was their way of preparing me for what I’m sure for most women, is such a traumatic and life adjusting event.  No maybe it will, maybe it won’t, rather,  it is going to happen do you need the number for a wig maker? Honesty I appreciated oddly enough.


Well, it is day 14 for me post chemo, so I know it IS going to happen any day now.  The oncologist explained that with the chemo plan I am on, I really should only be without hair between 9 and 12 weeks, (wow, ONLY), basically the period of these 1st three treatments.  My cunning plan is to hang onto my hair for as long as possible, so theoretically those non hair weeks will be fewer.


So despite ” The Plan”, the oddest thing happened on Sunday, day 10.  Now the following may be considered a bit of an over-share and a bit disturbing, so please activate parental control NOW.


Obviously due to the fact I still have limited use of my dominant right arm, I have not been able to “groom” myself as thoroughly as I would like, especially coming out of winter hibernation.  I have not had much chance to “shed as much fur” as I am accustomed to. Poor Pete has already had to do things for me way beyond his husbandly scope of work; I thought I needed to save him a few years of psychological counseling!  


So on Sunday evening I decided that this may be the right time to start preparing for summer. Armed with my trusty tweezers I went about pruning my bikini area.  I noticed that the little hairs were coming out rather easily, it took me a while to realise that they were coming out a bit TOO easily.  So naturally, (as you do), I abandoned the tweezers and found I was able to pull them out just with my fingertips!  It was the same for the longer hairs on my thighs (OK, before you judge, remember I have been recovering from surgery!).


So now I know the rest is not going to be far “behind” (yes, I’m afraid, those too!).



You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you. Brian Tracy

If I were to start taking care of my grooming, I would no longer be my own self … so the hell with it … I will continue to be unconcerned about it, which surely has the advantage that I’m left in peace by many a fop who would otherwise come to see me. ” – Albert Einstein

It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is the most adaptable to change. Charles Darwin

When we are no longer able to change a situation – we are challenged to change ourselves. Viktor E. Frankl





3 thoughts on “Grooming

  1. Life has that way of teaching you lessons, and one of the lessons I’m constantly reminded on this journey is that life is not about acquiring things… Yes, we think they will make us feel better but sadly once we have them we hardly appreciate them before we’re onto the next bigger and better one… We just never seem to be satisfied.

    But now here we are, you have to give up another part of you and it makes me sad. Its not fair, you’ve given up so much already but you keep on having to roll with the punches – and you do so more graciously than me. You’ve already given up your long hair and been brave enough to donate it, for someone else’s benefit, to make their journey more bearable… That’s so big and brave of you. And now, the rest is going to go too. But, it will grow back – yes its going to take time, and it may not exactly the same, but what is important to me is that YOU will be here when it does and we’ll watch it grow together

    I can’t imagine how this feels for you, because I’m struggling and its not happening to me! But just know that doesn’t change just how beautiful you are to me… I can loose myself in your smile, your laughter and in your beautiful blue eyes regardless as to whether you’re having a bad hair day, or a no hair day… As long as I have you to hold onto, the rest, the things the stuff – none of it is actually important. In a way I guess life is dishing out a large dose of perspective and its not to stomach.

    I love you, always – hair or no hair.

    “A woman whose smile is open and whose expression is glad has a kind of beauty no matter what she wears.”
    Anne Roiphe

    The best thing to hold onto in life is each other.
    Audrey Hepburn


  2. Our outside does not make us our inside, our hair (fortunately for me) does not actually define us…..

    “Interviewer: ‘So Frank, you have long hair. Does that make you a woman?’
    Frank Zappa: ‘You have a wooden leg. Does that make you a table?”
    ― Frank Zappa


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